What to put on your wedding website will all make sense in just a few short minutes. We’ve outlined everything you’ll want to keep in mind as you create the online portal for your wedding guests. Don’t worry, it’s not as involved or complicated as it sounds. So shake off the wedding planning jitters (we know the whole process can feel overwhelming and stressful) and try to enjoy yourself. We’ll give you some recommendations on what you can include, but as with everything else these etiquette tips are just suggestions. This is your wedding. Make it yours. Do as you wish and have fun with it!
Think kids’ birthday parties are easy? Cake, some balloons, maybe a clown…right? WRONG! If you’re planning a birthday party for anyone under the age of 14, consider yourself in deep waters. Navigating the etiquette of preschool, elementary, and middle school-aged parties is a minefield.
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Hooray, you’re engaged! There was a ring, maybe some rose petals, possibly a flash mob and most importantly, someone said “Yes!” Engagements are so exciting! When all the electricity has died down a bit and it’s time to start planning your wedding you’ll have so many different avenues to maneuver like who to invite, who not to invite, when to invite them and so on. We’re big believers that planning weddings shouldn’t have to be such a mystical pain in the ass. So we thought we’d give you some insight into the Do’s and Don’ts of sending out your wedding invites and save the dates.
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Planning a wedding (or really anything else) in 2020, was difficult given the uncertainties we all faced. It seems likely that our lives are on track to return to a place where we can make plans and stick to them again. Hallelujah! When planning a wedding, one of the first questions you’ll likely find yourself asking is when to send Save the Dates. Of course, first there’s the engagement, the endless stream of bubbly and what feels like a blanket of love. Once the initial haze wears off, the lucky couple will set a date. Sending save the date wedding cards is a step that should theoretically follow shortly after. Sometimes this can get pushed to the side when the avalanche of items on the wedding planning to-do list starts piling up. It’s wise to think ahead and prevent this from happening by marking your calendar with the approximate date for when you’ll do the actual mailing. This brings us back to the original question: When should you send your save the dates?
All your Save the Date questions answered…
But why stop there? We’ve taken every question imaginable about your Save the Dates and answered them below. Use this handy navigation to the answer to any and all questions.
Save the dates are more than just a date marker. Their main purpose is to give your guests time to get their ducks in a row so they can make it to your big day. With that in mind, sending your save the dates with plenty of time before your wedding date will provide your guests with the time required to make the proper arrangements.
While nine months may seem like a long time, it will allow the people in your lives to take time off from work, find babysitters and make any other arrangements in order to attend your wedding. When you break it down and think about it — that’s a lot of tasks to take care of.
Easily send Save the Dates in minutes. Postable will print, address and mail them for you. We’ll even help you collect the addresses.
When to mail send Save the Dates for a destination wedding?
Answer: 9-12 months prior to the wedding date.
If you’re planning a destination wedding or have many out of town guests, you’ll need to factor in even more time. On top of the normal arrangements, the added time (and financial) consuming process of making travel arrangements should absolutely be accounted for.
Nine to twelve months is ideal, giving your guests enough time to look for plane tickets and lodging (on top of everything else). They’ll also likely need to budget for a trip like this so it’s best to give them as much notice as possible.
Your wedding Save the Dates serve a number of purposes that are essential to bringing your ideal wedding to life.
They provide your guests with a date they can start planning for.
Think of your Save the Dates as fancy date markers. They provide your guests with the date they’ll need to mark on their calendars. Without this very important information, your guests may not be able to move things around in their lives (hello, work schedules) in order to ensure attendance.
They set the tone & theme for the big day.
Not the primary goal, though still important — your Save the Dates help establish the tone and theme of your wedding. And while you may not have the full colorscheme decided, you can still use these cards to begin to illustrate your own personal love story for the whole wedding party to feel connected.
If you want to make certain that your guests will be able to attend your special day, then yes — save the dates are necessary for weddings. If you skip these and just send the wedding invites, your guests may* have enough time to prepare. It really depends on the number of guests, whether they’re coming from out of town or how tight their schedules are.
All that to say, yes — Save the Dates are important if you want to ensure that the people you invite are able to attend.
Are save the dates and invitations the same?
They’re the same, right?! Not quite.
When you plan your wedding one of the first tasks is to choose the special date. Without this, you’re not able to confirm a venue or any vendors. You have this date in mind well before you’re ready to send out formal wedding invites.
Save the dates are the bare bones introduction to your big day and serve mostly to give your guests a heads up so that they can begin making their plans accordingly. Once you’ve confirmed your venue and have most of your wedding day info down, this information will be included on your wedding invites.
Only send save the dates to the people that are officially on your wedding guest list. This is very important. If you decide to send out your save the dates to everyone you know without first thinking about who to invite — you will have a big etiquette no-no on your hands when it comes time to actually narrow down the list of people.
Think of these as pre-wedding-invites. The save the date tells your guests that more info is coming their way. Don’t bank on the ‘they won’t be able to make it anyway’ mindset — because they will make it work and you’ll have to explain why they didn’t get an invite.
How to choose Save the Dates?
If you’ve solidified your special date and have begun moving forward with your wedding plans, it’s time to choose and mail out your very own wedding save the dates.
With a gajillion designs to choose from, you may be a bit overwhelmed. And we don’t blame you. Your Save the Dates set the tone for the rest of your big day. Think of them as the introduction to your ultimate love story. No big deal, right?
Once you have a vibe in mind — choose a design that goes with it accordingly.
A few things to keep in mind when choosing your save the dates —
Color scheme
Location vibes
Theme
Formality level
If you have your colors selected, then great! Use them to choose your design. If you’re still ages away from making that kind of a decision, not to worry. What kind of venue will the wedding be held in — beach, city rooftop, barn etc.? This will give you some ideas about the vibe you’ll want to look for in a save the date.
Speaking of vibes, is there a theme to your wedding? The location may [or may not] play a role in your theme– if you choose to have one. Are you and your fiancé big on travel? Perhaps you’re planning a travel themed wedding. Or the two of you are huge movie fans and it’s all about Hollywood. If you decide you’re going with a theme, keep this in mind when choosing your cards.
Finally, the formality level of your wedding. Do you want all of your guests in gowns or is this more of a khaki and flip flops kind of event?
Again, these cards are an introduction to your big day. All you’re trying to do with the design is to keep the feeling consistent from start to finish. No pressure — if you choose to change your mind about the colors or the formality [or anything else] by the time it’s wedding invite time you still can! There’s also the option to do matching save the dates and invites.
The best part? It’s your wedding so choose whatever feels right.
Save the dates without engagement photos.
If you’re not into the whole photo thing — Save the Dates without engagement photos are totally a thing. And there are plenty of designs to choose from in that department as well. These types of designs will give you more to play with in terms of theme and color schemes.
If you and your fiancé took the most amazing engagement photos, why not use them for your save the dates? There are a bunch of great photo templates out there which you can play with until you find the right one! Save the Dates with photos are great if you’re still largely unsure about the wedding aesthetic details. You can use a photo as the full background of your card so that the theme and colors are still up for grabs.
What Goes on Save the Dates | A Dissected Save the Date
It’s simple, really.
Names + Date + General Location
That’s it. Well, sort of. The two most important parts of a save the date are your names and the special date. If you’re choosing from a pre-designed selection of cards they’ll likely all have the words ‘Save the Date’ already on them as well. And lastly, include the general location of the big day. That may be in a city (especially important for destination weddings) or a resort name etc.
Easily send Save the Dates in minutes. Postable will print, address and mail them for you. We’ll even help you collect the addresses.
In the past you would have had to go through a process that takes hours to mail your save the dates. This would mean collecting mailing addresses from relatives & friends, finding the perfect save the date design and having them printed and mailed to you… Only then to painstakingly address hundreds of envelopes, re-doing each one like a million times because your handwriting is not what you thought it was.
Ok, so maybe you still want to do this — in which case have at it!
For those of us who would rather spend time doing just about anything else — you could pick out your save the dates and have them mailed for you by us (Postable) in minutes. Now, how does 5 minutes sound?
We’ll collect all of your guests’ mailing addresses for you and allow you to customize your own save the date (we work with some of the greatest designers out there). But the best part? We’ll print, address and mail out your save the dates for you.
How to address save the dates?
So you’re all set and ready to mail your cards, but you’re a bit unsure of how to address the envelopes. Who can blame you? When was the last time you sent something via snail mail?!
First, decide exactly who is invited. Is it just Darcy or is it Darcy and her hubby? Or is the whole family invited? Second, decide the formality level you want to use.
You have the options to use various titles or no titles at all. Still unsure exactly what to put on the envelopes.
Married couple
(formal) Mr. Jim and Mrs. Pam Halpert
(super-formal) Mr. and Mrs. Jim Halpert
(casual) Jim and Pam Halpert
(Family) The Halpert Family
Married couple with different last names
(formal) Mr. Jim Halpert and Ms. Pam Beesley
(casual) Jim Halpert and Pam Beesley
Hyphenated last name
(formal) Mr. Jim Halpert and Mrs. Pam Beesley-Halpert
(casual) Jim Halpert and Pam Beesley-Halpert
Unmarried couple living together
(formal) Mr. Jim Halpert and Ms. Pam Beesley
(casual) Jim Halpert and Pam Beesley
Married woman doctor or two married doctors
Doctor Pam and Mr. Jim Halpert
Drs. Pam and Jim Halpert
The Doctors Halpert
*Whichever spouse has the professional title should be listed first.
Families & children
If you’d like to extend an invite to the entire family, you can do so one of two ways. You can either write out all the names or simply just address the envelopes to the family name.
Mr. and Mrs. Jim Halpert Philip and Cecelia
The Halpert Family
Don’t have addresses for your wedding guests? Postable can collect them all for you into your own free address book.
Sure. It’s your wedding — you can do whatever you want. That’s the beauty of having it be yours. But do keep in mind why these cards exist in the first place. They serve a pretty important purpose so be sure that this isn’t important to you before you nix save the dates altogether.
You’ve walked down the aisle and have vowed your ‘I do’s’. Congratulations! Planning and then actually having a wedding is a lot of work (probably more than you ever imagined). Did you think that once the big day has come and gone, you’d be done with all the planning and to do lists?
Well, you are! Sort of.
If you’re choosing to change your name after marriage you will still need to go through another list or two. The good news? You’ve made it through planning a wedding — this will be a piece of cake!
Changing your name, while can be tedious, doesn’t have to be. Especially with our help!
Name change after marriage checklist.
Taking your spouse’s last name? Deciding on hyphenating? Choosing to be “Mr. & Mrs. Awesome”? Not so fast! Legally changing your last name after marriage requires a bit more work than just updating your Facebook profile.
✓ Get a certified copy of your marriage license
To officially change your name you will need your certified marriage license. Most states will automatically send you this after it gets processed, but in some cases, you may need to request a copy.
✓ Change your name on your Social Security card
Your Social Security number will stay the same, but you still need to apply to change your last name. Just fill out the application for a name change, print it out and send it along to your local Social Security Administration Office.
✓ Go to the DMV and get yourself a new license
Like most trips to the DMV, this will probably be unpleasant. Make it a little easier on yourself and be prepared–you’ll need to bring your marriage certificate, new Social Security card, and previous driver’s license (you’ll need to give it to them in order to get a new one).
✓ Change your bank accounts
The easiest way to do this is to go to one of your bank’s branch locations. Don’t forget your marriage certificate and a new driver’s license. In addition to changing the name on your accounts you’ll need to ask for new checks, and new debit and credit cards.
✓ Tell your creditors
Make sure to notify all lenders of your name change. Otherwise, you won’t have any credit history under your married name which could pose a huge problem during a credit check. Once you let them know they’ll link your credit files under your old name and you’ll be able to avoid any distasteful accusations.
✓ Inform your employer and review your payroll and benefits
Make sure you still get paid! Let your employer know of your name change so it will be reflected on your payroll. Check your tax withholdings, insurance coverage, and any other items that might be affected by your change in marital status or added beneficiaries.
A few more things to consider.
Getting your employer up to date is one thing, but don’t forget a few other spots where your new legal name is kind of important.
✓ Passport
✓ Utility bills
✓ Alumni association
✓ Voter registration office
✓ Landlord or mortgage company
✓ Investment accounts (and 401(k)s)
✓ Your attorney (to update will)
✓ Physicians
Whew, changing your last name is a lot of work…luckily it’s one thing that you can do AFTER the wedding craziness.
Save time after your wedding!
Save yourself some time for important things like changing your name after your wedding by taking care of your wedding thank you notes with Postable.
You don’t want to put off writing your thank you notes for too long, but changing your name and all the other life tasks that you’re getting back to are equally as important.
Luckily, you can take care of your wedding thank yous in half the time it would normally take you. And no, you won’t be sacrificing quality OR your personal touch.
You can write personal messages using one of our beautiful handwritten fonts in minutes using one of the hundreds of stunning designer wedding thank you notes.
Postable will then print, address and mail them all out for you.
Your wedding is fast approaching so why are there so many missing RSVPs and how do you get your guests to actually respond? You sent them Save the Dates. You gave them their own little RSVP card and a pre-addressed, pre-stamped return envelope. You let them RSVP online via your wedding website so they wouldn’t even have to get up and find a mailbox.
